[LibbyHawkins]

I understand you need to be upfront and truthful.

Do these other people know who actually is her father?

Perhaps if possible just let her know in the most loving way possible that although he will always be her father, he is in reality not her biological father, although they are so much alike and have such a bond that the two you can hardly believe it.

Explain that it was a short relationship that ended badly and in the future you will share more details with her if she wishes, but right now, you just wanted to be upfront and truthful. Explain that it was unsafe for you and her sister and you fear it would still be unsafe situation if she pushes to know more. It may cause some serious issues for her and counseling, perhaps that mother and daughter could attend together might help her adjust. Even if it was just a few sessions which could possible include your husband in some part.

Very, very tough decision and situation. Good thoughts coming your way.

What are the chances of someone else informing her that he is not her biological father?