[DotHeff]

We were shocked when we learned that our daughter was born. She came home 2 days later from the hospital. Her birth family chose closed adoption and we have no identifying information about them. Honestly, we were open to a semi-open adoption at time and were surprised that they chose closed. I'm kind of bummed out about it, as we have NOTHING to share with our now 4 year old daughter regarding her family of origin.

Our son was born 8/06 and his birthmother chose closed adoption as well. In fairness, she picked our profile and in our profile we identified that we were willing to discuss openness, but she only asked for updates at birthdays and christmas...she sends him beautiful gifts, but no photo as of yet.

So in short, yeah, birthmothers DO choose closed agency placement adoptions. They have their reasons, and we as the adoption community need to respect those reasons in the same way as open placement birthmoms deserve respect for their decision.