I just had to throw this little "story" in!
I am 38 years old....almost 39......and all my life, I have wanted to look "just like" someone. That is just one of the many things that played out in the on-going fantasy of someday locating my birthmother. I've spent YEARS scouring crowds for faces similar to mine.....knowing that one day, I would see someone who looks just like me, looking back.
What I found, instead, is that my birthmother has blonde hair, blue eyes and is short and petite......which is hysterical to me, because I am taller, heavier and have brown hair and hazel eyes!! Apparently, from what I have been told, ALL of the women in my birthfamily are blonde haired, blue eyed, "small" people! I would never in all of my wildest imaginings EVER have thought that!!
And the "rub" is that I realize now, that I look far more like my adoptive family than I could ever dream of looking like my birthmother!! Now, my birthfather is another story.....I have no idea who he is, but I must "guess" that he has brown hair and eyes!
I have been struggling a lot, in the last few weeks, with the new "sense of self" that I am coming to know. All of the "fantasies" and "imaginings" of the last 38 years flew straight out the window with recent discoveries. I would be less than honest if I didn't say that I feel some sense of disillusionment with what I have discovered, because a lot of my life has been spent thinking that I am who I am, in large part, because of my birthfamily......and I know now, that nothing could be further from the truth. The reality is, I am who I am, becuase I am ME! I am my own person.....
Anyway.....just my two cents!
Hugs,
Sally