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You're not crazy. We were listed thru ldsfs and ended up being placed with a 3.5 almost 4 yr old little girl...We also ended up not finalizing thru LDSFS, because of the age of the child. There are so many things that can happen in adoption, that you really are led blindly in faith.
If you want an older child, you would be better off to go through the foster care system in my opinion. Because this was a private adoption, I had NO assistance from the state for her healthcare, or therapy, or anything. Any older child will have attachment issues. Prepare for it. The levels and severity will vary, but it will be there. NOT having assistance to get therapy for my dd was a major hardship for us. I ended up doing it all on my own with help from the special needs boards here. Plus taking the classes that foster care offers will prepare you for ANY older child, even if they are not coming from the foster care system.
Good luck!
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