[akcskye]

Hey...don't allow your friends to blame growing apart on you.

IMHO, if your friend was really a friend...they would want to support you and make you feel welcome no matter how you're doing in your life right now.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Until your friend said that, you were fine with your life, right?

The truth hurts...but the stretched truth hurts even worse.

If they move on, so should you...and vice versa.

It is not up to you to always be the way they want you to be just because you're not "in the club" of married and kids.

I mean, if YOU feel the complaint is validated...then work on it...but if you don't feel it is...then re-evaluate your relationship with your friends.

I went through this with my friends...they were all dropping babies left and right. I had nothing in common, I wasn't "in the club" (coincidentally, I was the only one MARRIED in my circle of friends at the time, which for me, during that time, made it so much worse).

Look at what you posted here...you're "emotionally available"...I just think you have friends who are "unavailable" when it comes to being a shoulder.

(((HUGS)))

Originally Posted by Wyrman332

I need to vent....

This is bad. I've found that I am just an unplesant person to be around. One of my friends told me that I need to change my attitude or else I'm going to lose my friends. I've taken on such a poor demeanor that people tend to stay away from me. All my friends are now married and having kids and I am finding myself not wanting much to do with them. They have what I feel I'll never have, which is a place to belong to. I always get mad at them when they complain about being married. I tell them, "At least you have a place to go home to, a person who you belong with." They all think I'm over reacting, but I seriously think I'm not supposed to be happy, have the family, have the kids, etc... It's a harsh realization that I cannot find myself being happy in a relationship only because I feel there are alterior motives. I cannot trust anyone. I cannot let anyone in. I'm "emotionally unavailable" as some have put it.

My god I hate this. I hate not having anyone around me that understands what I'm going through. Forget shrinks, they want nothing to do with adoption issues.

I hate my life.

Thanks for listening.