Thanks you guys! your words of support mean the world to me!
You're right Susan, standing tall is the way to go!
My m-i-l is a very sweet person, she just doesn't like unpleasant things. I suspect she'll feel sorry for me on some level. In any case I have recruited s-i-l to talk to her. She's known for some time (it was hard to tell her but easier for me than m-i-l). sigh
DH says she didn't really react much at all. It could be a Swedish thing, or shock, or not having time to react. I'll keep you all updated!!
