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I had the same questions when I married my husband twelve yrs ago. He knew of my first daughter because he and I have known each other that long! Anyhow, we started our relationship when my DD was only a little over a year old and he has been the most supportive and understanding man and best friend I could have ever hoped for. However, I made the choice not to tell his family, the adoption was closed and I had no idea if I would ever have a reunion with her. Much less, if I did, would it be brief or last the rest of our lives? I didn't see the point in informing his family of her until I found her and felt out the situation from there. I didn't keep her a secret from my children though and honestly, to me, she isn't a secret and I'm not ashamed, I just chose to wait. When I did find her and we began the start of our "relationship", I proceeded to tell my husbands family, and last but certainly not least is his mom. It's not that I don't want to tell her, but everytime I want to my husband says to wait...she's a talker and usually we are rushed for time, not that he doesn't want her to know. Sorry to ramble, short of it is that you should do what you feel comfortable doing, when the time is right for you and don't worry about what they might think...as I saw in other replies above. All that matters is the relationship you and your husband have. Best wishes and best of luck to you!
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