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Originally Posted by IzaksMom
I would really appreciate any and all thoughts that could be shared. I placed my son for adoption almost 4 years ago. At that time in my life, I had just divorced my husband, who I had only been married to for about 6 months and had been separated 2 of those months. Anyway, the only reason that is pertinent is because now I am happily married to an LDS man who shares my beliefs and is a very loving guy. I have always felt that I wanted my children to know about the son I placed for adoption. I want to be open about him so that he will know that he is loved and so that his other "siblings", my future children, will know him and learn to love him also. The question I have been struggling with for the past few months is whether to tell my husband's family about my son. The only reason I question this is because I am afraid that knowing my past will change their perceptions of me. I don't want to be judged unfairly. I know that when I got pregnant, I wasn't making the best, most righteous choices in my life. But I have learned from my mistakes and have come back to making the choices I should have been making from the beginning. I struggle because I want my kids to feel free to talk about my birthson. Do I just limit those conversations to me and my husband? Is this silly to even think about at this time? I guess I feel that if I am going to tell his family, I would rather just get it over with. Anyway, please share any insights that you have. I would really appreciate it.
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You are who you are. Telling them won't change that. If they change their opinion of you to something less then they think now, then to be honest, they aren't worth knowing.
Giving up a child adds to who you are, how you feel and think about the world around you. How you react to he world.
Tell them, but do not do it as if you are ashamed, or not worthy. Telling them with confidence, with love and pride.
good luck.