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I encourage you to consider discussing it now while she is so little. This way it isn't a big event in her life discovering her Mother is her Aunt. It is a story she will just "know" instead of have to come to terms with. I know some family's think theri kids do not understand until a certain age but I and many others have found that not to be true. One of my dd's family is pretty involved in our lives and she has known since we first laid eyes on her that she had 2 mothers and who they were. It gets processed slowly over the years but there was never any kind of event for her to deal with, the loss that adoption brings is enough. What age is really a good age to tell them? 5, 10, 18? Trust me, this is much easier with a VERY young child, she will be able to have a relationship that is special with her mother from the begining.

Please look around here and research the topic in books and online. I think you will see waiting may have consequences you didn't intend. Go to the adoptee and birthparent forums and see the other side of things, it will help you be the best adoptive parent you can be.