[Tudu]

It makes me sad that your dd doesn't know who her Mother is and I fear that it is a secret that you will not be able to keep and it will not end well.

We have both and open and a semi open adoptions and have explained why one might not receive a gift that another child might receive. One dd gets presents from her Mother and sisters but she does not provide any for my other children. The other children's family does group gifts b/c they are related to so many of my children they can not afford to do something separate for all of them. It is not an issue b/c they know why it is happening.