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A good rule of thumb is, if you act like is a BIG DEAL...people will think it is a BIG DEAL. This goes for any subject. Casual is best...like when someone tells about a car crash they were in or heard about, if you were in a crash too, it'd be natural to tell them your crash story. If you called a "family meeting" to explain that you'd been in a car crash once it'd seem intense and odd....and people wouldn't quite know how to take it...
The question onslaught might go something like this...
Really?
When?
Why?
How old was she/he?
Do you have contact?
Are you ok?
What is his/her name?
Did you get to meet the parents?
What does your family think?
Was it hard?
Do you have pictures?
Does the birth father know?
Most likely, someone would come up with THEIR experience or story regarding adoption...someone they knew, or dated either was adopted, or placed, or was an adoptive parent.
You may even get comments like "Oh man I could never do that" which sounds offensive at first but usually it's meant in a "personally I'm too weak to handle what you went through" kind of way and you'll find that out when you ask them to clarify that statement.
You may get stunned silence, so be prepared with some follow up statements like "I placed a baby for adoption a few years ago.....It was a girl/boy...she/he is XYZ years old.....I got to pick out the parents and meet them....." By this time any shock will have had time to register and and their brains will kick into gear with questions...OR they'll ask you permission to ask a question......or they'll ask your husband later about it...and he can give them permission to talk about it with you ...they may be hesitant to bring anything up in the event it causes you pain or uncomfortability.
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