[adopting_again]

We did not specify gender for our first adoption. There were 3 families waiting on a girl, we would be fourth in line, one family was waiting on an unknown until birth (I guess the whole ultrasounds can be wrong issue), and then us, we didn't care as we knew we would adopt again. We have a bio. son. It wasn't a matter of ethics, so much as we knew we'd have other opportunities to get a girl if that one was a boy (she was shockingly a girl). I think you need to go with your gut. If you feel you'll be disappointed if you get a boy, you need to be able to be overjoyed instead. We, as infertile couples, deal with so much heartache, it can be one way to see that as a blessing. We have far more choices than any pregnant woman-what we accept, don't accept. Now, granted, when you're pregnant, many of those things are our decisions anyway (drugs, drinking, choice of partner in many cases), but it's not a horrible thing to have desires. Remember, God gives us those desires and wants us to ask for them.