[sbaglio]

Hello,

My spouse and I are considering an adoption situation that we will most likely turn down, but I wanted to find out from those who have adopted how you deal with financial matters with birthmothers who are in financial straits. This issue has come up in our considerations about the situation.

The expectant mom with whom we are speaking suffers greatly from a lack of resources, and one thing we are wondering is how that will impact our relationship, should we end up adopting her baby. Her life is quite chaotic, and we worry about the impact of this in an open adoption with her.

Have any of you had requests for money (for food, rent, etc) or other type of help from birthmothers who are struggling? I feel we would have a sense of obligation - this would be our child's mother, how could we not help? Then again, I have no idea if there are laws against this AFTER the adoption. How does one navigate the situation, even if we are not asked for help, but sense that help is desperately needed?

Many thanks for your help.