Thanksgivingmom,
Thanks for the reply. Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I ended up breaking my ankle last weekend and my mom had surgery this week. Wheew!
I like your idea about not going through the newspaper. I was concerned that she might have hidden the pg. and that her parents could be local, see the ad, put 2 and 2 together and get very upset with her. She doesn't need anymore stress than she's already got! I also liked the idea your adoptive family had about leaving a note at the hospital. I forgot that the hospitals have social workers, too.
I wasn't going to leave anything until we finalize. Our state is still a little jittery when it comes to open adoptions, but I really think they can do everyone in the triad a world of good if people's hearts are in the right place. So, by the time I left the note at the hospital or started searching here, he will probably be about a year old. If I may be so bold to ask, when did your DD's family contact you? Do you think a year is enough time? I guess, especially if I leave messages here, it gives her the option of responding when she's ready. Where are the most likely websites she would be, or in other words, besides here can you think of anywhere else I could post? My heart just breaks for her. I think of her and come close to tears. The not knowing has to be sooooo hard. Thank you again for all your opinions and information. The "experts" who usually dole out information to AP's only know what the research says. It's nice to have information from a real "expert" who's lived it and really knows what they're talking about, even if it is only one experience in a sea of many. Thank you again and again and again.....
Megan