I am not an amom rather, an bmom.
But, I figured since I can read these threads I can also reply.
I think maybe it could also be up to the adoptee to decide.
It's like Blue Irish Eyes (adoptee) said,....."most of us love
both of you." Personally, if my daughter refers to me as her life
mom, thats fine. But, if she refers to her amom as lifemom, thats
okay, too.
Thats my 2 cents..cha ching
