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I found my bmother through Friends Reunited earlier this year the day after my 40th bday. I'd been searching on and off for the last 5 years but had been getting nowhere. The message had been posted less than a month earlier and contained specific information which left me in no doubt it was my bmother. Within 24 hours using 192.com and the Family records centre I knew her address , the names of her 3 other sons ,and her husbands name (same as mine). The most amazing of the coincidences however is she works 10 mins walk from where I live, though I was adopted in a completley different part of the country. Her sons who I think are my half brothers all attended the same school as my asister and live close by.
I initiated contact through Friends re-united by asking a cryptic question only she would comprehend but the reply I received came from one of her sons stating he didn't understand and wanted further clues(I'm not sure if she even knows about her FR posting). I haven't replied but have since received further emails in her name offering incorrect information that i am 90% sure are from the son.
I realise I have opened a can of worms but at the moment I'm very uncomfortable with making contact while we live so close by, especially if she doesnt want to be in contact it may make her very uncomfortable knowing I am just around the corner. I am again making the presumption she hasn't told her husband or children about me.
For such a long time it was extremley frustrating not being able to find out anything, especially as I didn't know if I wanted to reunite I was just intensley curious about where I was from. As a young child i'd fantasised about finding my bmother and observing her from a distance, though out of loyalty to my parents would never make contact. I have told my afather about the situation (my amother died when I was 11) who reacted well at the time but has never discsussed it with me since.

Most of all I would like her to know that I am fine and have had a good and interesting life so far.

I'd be very grateful if anyone has any advice i.e should I send a letter giving a little info with an email address and no geographical info ?

Thank-you