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Originally Posted by sweetpea012607
rainmom, I wish I could. Ever so much I wish I could. But my a-parents are really strict Baptists and their theory's are this:
1. you can not move out until you get married
2. you can not get married until you are out of college
3. you will do as I say as long as you live under this roof
4. if you do not do as I say you will be out of this house with nothing but the clothes on your back
It sucks. Even if I did get out of the house, I wouldn't be able to pay for college, I wouldn't have a job, I wouldn't have a place to live.
I'm so constricted and yet I want so much to be free.
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Sweatpea,
Don't loose yourself please!
Those rules are extremely similar to what I had. Plus I had the "you could only be friends with people I approve of, and if I hear of you talking to others without my permission..." Controlling people (my a/mom) ... and they claim it is "for our own good."
It's time for you to explore other avenues for college. You can pay for college with grants and other financial aid. Sure, it will take time for you to do this, but worth it in the end. You can also explore working for a company that will provide college assistance or work the "co-op" financial aid package at a college. This way, the issue of college will NEVER be over your head (trust me, it will be there in the "well, I pay for your school, you will take what I want you to take, not what YOU want. OR the "I paid for your college, it's time for you to help us out when we're old, you'll owe us for that.").
If you work, you can set aside so much of your paycheck, ask your employer to issue you a second check. Many will do it, especially if you tell them you want to put it aside. If they know your family like my employers knew mine, I told them that I was saving up for something special for the parents. I had to do that because a/mom wanted to see my paycheck and determine where I was spending my money, yep I had to account for the spending of every penny. At one point, a/mom decided that I should pay for everything that they had given me.
Just know that you aren't the ONLY one this is happening to, nor are you the only one this has happened to. There are a lot of us out there....
M