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My dw and I have just started the process to adopt a waiting child, hopefully between toddler and pre-school age. We waited to start a family for school and careers to settle and finally feel that we are in a good place in our lives to start raising children.

My question is this, from an AF point of view, what do I need to do to be involved without suffocating my dw who telecommutes from home.

Should I plan to take time off from work when our child first comes home? Should I just come home earlier than usual? Or should it be business as usual to help set up a routine?

The books on the subject tend to conflict and nearly all of them focus on the adoptive mother. While I'm excited about adopting, the closer we get, the more I worry that I won't have the skills to be the kind of father that I want to be.

I'd appreciate any advice on or off topic that you all have.