[heidibay66]

Hope you all had a good 2007 Thanksgiving.
I think New Zealand has a really good idea there. And that is kind of the point. Why are some states, or even countries, starting to see that this needs to be done and some aren't? Why is it the right that some people get some people don't? Why, because I was born and adopted in Washington State, do I get to watch other people find information and not be able to get to my own? I mean, why are we so secret here that we want to hide origins from children who really need them? Why are we different? How can prove to people that we are more than willing to give them privacy if they want it, if we are not allowed to even know whether they want it or not?
I would rather hear from my original family that they want the privacy and don't want to get to know me yet. But instead the state decides that they want their privacy instead of asking them. Who has that right? And who gave it to them?
How do we get the word to the right people to make them see what we need to do is give both sides the option? My original mother decided to carry me for 9 months, decided to make sure I was taken care of and now they think she is not wise enough to decide whether she is ready to see me or talk to me?
Maybe we need to make them see the psychological advantage to opening records. Cause to tell you the truth, being adopted, it does affect you psychologically whether people want to admit it or not. You may be in a good family who treated you like you were born to them, or you may be their miracle child, but if you were not psychologically affected by being adopted, then why are you here? It may not be a bad affect,it may make you feel special, but if you are here, you must feel some attachment to the group of people who are searching.
That is what I think and I think New Zealand has a wonderful idea, veto and then in ten years if you feel the same, veto again. Atleast then the child and anyone else involved would know, "not right now." No wondering.