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Boy I know how you're feeling and the anticipation of getting "the call". I did that when my daughter turned 18 years old too. I kept thinking that we'd meet when she was 18 and the agency who promised to direct her to me would do so. They never did. It was her adoptive dad who found me but that wasn't until my daughter was about to tunr 21 years old.
I put ads in the newspaper and tried to get information from the agency just to be told they were sealed records and we couldn't get anything on the adoption. That was very upsetting because I was told when my daughter turned 18 all that would be open and she could find me if I kept the files updated.
I went to court houses trying to get information but it didn't matter what I did or said or anything they said the records were closed and unless there was a GOOD reason to open them to find out what I wanted to find out, the judge would not give an ok for the order to open the records.
The waiting was the hardest thing I ever did in the reuinion situation. Every year after she was 18 and we still hadn't met I just got more depressed and more depressed. I was so excited when the contact was made.
Now however I regret having such a desire to know her and what her life had been like because it was horrible not good like I'd been promised it would be.
Like someone else said here, "Get counseling and do some reading. No matter what you think it will be, it won't. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best and hang on with your hand open."
I hope things do work out for you to meet your child but really be careful of how much you expect because you may be completely horrified at what you find.
Rylee
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