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So I fostered my son for almost a year and we bonded a lot during that time. But strangely, after he was "officially" adopted, I spent a whole lot of time thinking "what the heck have I done?" It's finally getting better now and I've tried to fake it. Sometimes it works and sometime it doesn't. He and my bio daughter could both feel the pressure. Just give it time and get yourself some help. Mild antidepressants or even the occasional massage might help. Give yourself a break. All families have hard times. Sometimes it's about money sometimes it about an adoption. it's been almost a year since my adoption and I'm just now getting to the point that I'm not anxious about it all the time.
Maybe spend time together in places where there's no pressure but where he still needs you to have fun. Like the park or at Chuck E.Cheese where he can play the games by himself but has to keep you close to keep the tokens coming. =)
Most of all, try to tell yourself that everything does not have to be perfect all the time. I spend lots of time wasting guilt on the fact that my son came from a terrible background and I feel like I somehow have to make up for that. I'm getting over those feelings but I understand how hard it is. . . .
Stick in there.
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