[heidibay66]

I am adult adoptee: I was just thinking that it is unfair that someone else, who has no connection to me or my original parents, gets to look at my records anytime they want because they are not involved and nothing at stake. When I spoke with Lutheran Social Services, the women I was talking to was sifting thru my file,while she was on the phone with me. She even made the comment that my original parents names were right in front of her. That would have been a good time for a new video phone right? She has no involvement and can see my information and their information right there.
I just don't think that it is fair that someone else has that power over my life and the path of my search. I understand privacy issues but how can this be handled better.
The attorney that handled my adoption, all those years ago, was a friend of my adoptive mothers. Even though he is dead now and all of his other files are on microfische, my have just disappeared from all records in his office and in the courts(so far). Someone else had the power to decide for me that I would never be allowed any ounce of information.
What if we have a judge who had a bad experience with his own adoption or such or just doesn't like us, he can tell us no. How fair is that? He can look at the files, clerks can look at the files, everyone can look at the files, but us...
How fair is it that someone else, not involved, can see our files and not us?
What do you think?