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Do not ever allow yourself to feel "desperate" or that you "have to" give in to whatever the potential birthmother wants from you.
While it's nice to feel chosen there's no way I would commit to anything I wasn't absolutely, positively 100% sure I would be able to do for the next 18 years at least. Granted she may change her mind but if you make a commitment to something you're to follow thru with it. If you're unsure now and feel there are good reasons for you not wanting to visit her frequently at her location, it won't get better later. Things that bother us at the beginning of a relationship that we think "oh, I'll learn to live with it" can become major, relationship-ending, issues. It's one thing when it's consenting adults but once you bring a child into this situation the dynamics all change.
Think long and hard about this AND PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. My advice would be to pass and trust the Lord to bring the right child into your life.
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