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Identity
LOL, everyone has indentity issues, adoptee and non adoptee, why do you think teenagers are the way they are, it is not all about hormones. While a teenager is struggling with who they are and how they come to be an adopted teenager has the added adjustment of being adopted, a child reared in a biological home is not the same as raising an adopted child. I was speaking to my mother after I posted here (my mother is a councillor for addiction) I asked her what she felt about this subject, she stated that when a teenager is in addiction it is more difficult for them to accept that they have a problem with addiction, teenagers tend to think they are invinsible. The possibility of your son being an addict in life is doubtful, especially when you are right there with him supporting him to whatever extreme. But in no way can you force him into rehabilitation. yes he is a child so to speak, but he doesnt feel that he is, therin lies your problem. Tough love doesnt work with every child, especially one who is adopted, sometimes tough love is the same as abandonment (which your son most likely fears but at the same time wants) My thoughts are with you as you go through this tough time. Remember love and understanding builds good sons
Hugs
Melissa
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