I am really hoping that someone out there has some kind words for me!! My husband and I were recently matched with a 2 yr old boy (B). We brought him home in september (we are adopting from foster care). He is a wonderful child! Very happy and sweet! He had very little trouble adapting to our home and he has bonded amazingly well with dh.
The problem is I haven't bonded. He rejects me when I try to bond with him and it makes me so resentful. I think it's a cycle of me trying, him rejecting, me getting upset, and then all over again. It's horrible! And I spend a lot of my day crying. It's only been 6 weeks, but there are days that I just really don't like him. I feel so terrible to even say this, but I have to get it out.
No one seems to understand. DH thinks I am over reacting and insists that B loves me and is bonded. My friends don't really get it. I even went to my doctor because I have been really depressed, and she told me that it's normal to have a hard adjustment when so much changes in your life, and to come back in a few months if I don't feel better (very helpful - thanks...
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I want to bond with him and love him, but it's so hard when he rejects me for DH (and even my neighbor who is a close friend!)
Has anyone dealt with this? Will it get better? How can I bond with my son?