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question for adoptees from amom
Hi. I'm not sure where to post this, but here goes. I'm an adoptive mom with a 20 month old son. His birthmom and I agreed on myself sending pictures and letters. So far things are going well with our relationship. His bmom writes and sends pictures of her other children as well. My question is, although I plan to always tell my son he is adopted from the get go, do I also reveal that I'm writing to his bmom and vice versa? Will that be more confusing? I'm saving all her letters and making copies of the ones I send and saving it all for him. I thought I could give it to him when he turns 18.............what do you think? I just want to do what is best and I don't want to give my son any reason to resent me. ..............also, bmom is a cocaine addict............so this is another part of my reasoning for no direct contact....Any help from adoptees who have been there?
Thanks,
Beth
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