[A_mothers_love]

I am not an expert on the subject of adoption but I have done allot of research, when an adoptee is trying to find his/her own identity they are pulled in two directions, one is how he was raised and another is how he thinks he should act (genetically). When an adoptee does not have very much to go on genetically it is even more difficult. Sometimes knowing what the other mother did during her pregnancy might bring on some of what you are seeing. Drug use is not hereditary though addiction is. Perhaps and I am only assuming here he believes that he has bad genetics so he might as well follow in them. (please my own thoughts) love and understanding is what he needs right now, rehabilitation is not going to work unless he wants it to. The right councillor will be able to help him deal with his adoption issues, adoptee's have a difficult time finding out who they really are (identity) He is most likely trying to feel you out... he has been abandoned once and perhaps is deep down really feeling he is not good enough, meaning he is trying to be as bad as he can to see if you too will abandon him. This is were love and understanding comes in. Perhaps he feels he cannot speak to you about his adoption? I lost my son to adoption in 1988 he will be fifteen in July. what your son is going through scares me for what if my son is going through this?. Just a thought but mayhap he would like to know a bit more about his history? Again I am not an expert and these are only my thoughts and feelings, I hope they help
Hugs
Melissa