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Originally Posted by leyfields
Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable with all this? And what, if anything, could/would I do if I felt so uncomfortable that I decided to find another family??  If anyone has suggestions, please let me know! I only have 60 days left until 'SHELBY' is born... (my frustration isn't that obvious, is it?) |
You are not wrong for feeling uncomfortable with this. Hearing the way this family is behaving makes my skin crawl with "wrongness" (pardon the word). PLEASE, find another family! It is completely wrong for them to be treating your child as if she is already theirs.
YOU are the mother until AFTER the baby is born and AFTER your rights are terminated,
IF that is what you decide to do
at that time.
I'm also alarmed that they don't want another homestudy. Sure, they may want to avoid the $$, but you deserve to know that the family you choose has been thoroughly screened. (I don't know the state you're in. In mine there's no choice but to have a home study, but none-the-less, it seems suspicious to me.) Just a side note.
Without a doubt though, you are being pressured to place with them and that is not okay. PLEASE, heed your instincts. You can go to any agency you want, as many agencies as you want, or look online at Parent Profiles. You are not "bound" to use an agency just because you talk with them, despite what you may be told.
I hope others will have more advice for you...