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Sometimes stuff gets to me personally....For example, I saw the blog an a mom (who seems to be probably one of the most "open" OA moms I have seen) talking about her DD (adopted at birth) having a hard time with preschool. And someone commented on how the a mom was right to think it may be a result of "adoption trauma." It's stuff like that that makes me bonkers.....(not that I don't think adoption is a loss for the child, but it's hard for me to "attribute" preschool adjustment to something like that!).
On the other hand, I do think that there are people who are legitimately concerned about some of the ethical problems/dilemmas with domestic infant adoption. I really do agree with many of the "reforms" that I have seen suggested. To me, although I don't like extremism on anything...sometimes you need extremists to make you feel reasonable!
This stuff doesn't hurt my relationship with DD's birth mom...if anything, it makes me appreciate our relationship more. And I think a lot of extremism is born of pain, and I think it has helped me realize that, though she does not talk about it much, DD's birth mom has suffered a lot...I hope that helps our relationship too (not the pain, but at least my basic "acknowledgment" of it).
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