What a year... you know they say that being 20 is the hardest year because it's the last year before you can legally drink. Guess what! That's not a problem for me! I guess it was 2 months after I turned 20 that I had an inkling that I may be pregnant. I had just started a new relationship with a great guy and I was finally happy after too many bad jobs and disgusting guys hitting on me. I am now 8 months pregnant. The daddy and I have been exploring adoption for some time now as we see that as the best option for us and for the baby. We are now living together and very happy, however neither of us have the financial stability or the experience necessary to give this baby the best home. Recently, though, we have run into some difficulties. We found a family we really liked through a girlfriend of mine. They seemed absolutely perfect and I would never have known that her aunt and uncle had been looking to adopt. I think that was our first mistake. Since we started really talking with them, we have learned that they were almost chosen twice before and are therefore VERY excited about the possibility of adopting our baby. Unfortunately, they seem a bit too excited. I believe it is mostly my fault for choosing a family so close to my own, but they are starting to make me uncomfortable. They have notified their entire family of this joyous occasion. Good for them! THen the entire family decided it was necessary to call me and give me advice. My friend, the niece, has recently taken to calling me 'Preggers' in public and sends me constant e-mails asking how her cousin is doing and telling me that I had better make sure to take care of 'her cousin, Shelby'
(they named the kid that's still in my belly... and call her by that name ALL THE TIME) The family also refuses to go through the adoption agency that my now fiancee and I have chosen to handle the adoption
. They told me they didn't want to have to go through another home study so they wanted to use an adoption attorney and complete the adoption privately.
Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable with all this? And what, if anything, could/would I do if I felt so uncomfortable that I decided to find another family??
If anyone has suggestions, please let me know! I only have 60 days left until 'SHELBY' is born... (my frustration isn't that obvious, is it?)