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I have a rule in my house for my sons and my daughters. NO dating til they are 16. I am very very very strict at what I allow my kids to do. For starters I've never allowed them to run the streets, spend the night at friends house unless i personally knew the parents. Now friends could come to my house cause i knew i was going to keep not only my kids safe but theirs as well. Now that they are old enough to go places they are only allowed to go with people i approve of. Do I choose their friends ABSOLUTELY. Do they hate me at times YES. But do they know I lvoe them VERY MUCH. And the other day my girls told me they are glad that I was that way with them and still are cause it makes life easier for them. They don't have to worry about being in a position where they will have to say no to something cause i never allowed them to be in a situation for that to arrise. In my house the ONLY privacy my children have are their diarys. I've never snooped through that. Other than that they know that everything is fair game for my scrutiny. And it's worked because my kids have and do come and talk to me about everything. NOw are my kids perfect? NO..but they aren't out there doing drugs, having sex, drinking and being wild. They aren't running around half dressed. Now don't get me wrong..teens will still find ways to do things they aren't supposed to.
I would stand your ground. She may hate you now but some day she will thank you. It's our jobs as parents to protect our children even our stepchildren from the cruel world. Tell your husband this how he would feel if she got pg at 12 or worse was date raped. It does happen. I'm not saying this boy has bad intentions but we have no idea what his intentions are. She is way to young in my opinion.
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