[Rylee45]

I understand what you're saying about god putting children with abusive bio-parents etc but if the agency prayed for my daughter's family and who she should go to for adoption, this family she went to should never EVER have had a child placed in their home. Ever.

There were more well balanced, sane, normal people than those people. I'm sure of that. In my opinion if God had anything to do with it my daughter would have gone to a home where they loved her and didn't feel the need to control every move she made until she became a very insecure person who is still fighting demons.

Her adoptive mom is STILL controling her life even though my daughter is 31 years old. Her adoptive mom controls her with guilt trips, money (she is very wealthy and uses the money as blackmail to keep my daughter doing things she wants her to do in order to continue to be in her Will to get money when this woman is dead) and whatever else she can do to keep her under her thumb.

Her adoptive mom makes threats if my daughter moves where she can't see her because she wants to be in another state. She keeps telling her that she has no right to take her grandchildren from her and she'll fight for custody if she tries to leave the area. She wanted to move and her adoptive mom "wont' allow it".

My daughter wasn't strong enough to withstand the horible things she went through. She caved and became a person who worships the devil, is a drug addict, alcoholic, who abuses her own kids, is married to a person who claims multiple personalities and cross dresses and doesn't beleive in God.

That just makes me believe that God had nothing to do with where she was placed. I believe that the family she went to were personal friends of the woman who handled the adoption and is the only reason they went to that home. Too much evidence points to that since meeting them.

I do understand the thing about the "clean slate". They sure were uninformed back in those days. I'm just glad that things have gotten better in that respect and the world realizes that these children who are adopted do have some things (good or bad) that will be like their bio-families.

Rylee