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Amy, the reality is is that I think it is a mistake to say you want this or that in the abstract....I am sure you will find that MOST infant adoption situations in this country do NOT involve drugs or alcohol. Does your agency "require" you to put your OA desires in a letter, etc.? I mean you can always "say" you want an open adoption but what does that really "mean" without meeting expecting parents and sort of "hammering" it out? I personally think the most honest "answer" is saying that you are "open" to having an open adoption. If expecting moms "pass' on you because of that, then so be it....there will be others that probably appreciate that.