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As a birthmother who was told to move on and not think about your child and we did not receive any counseling in those days (1975), options were not given to us. I would like to say that if there is ANY way that you can find out her last name, do so. You never know, in 15 years, she might want to have contact and then at least you do have her full name. My family never asked me about my feelings, and we never discussed my daughter until my mother was on her deathbed from breast cancer. Thats when she apologized for forcing me into the adoption and telling me that maybe I would have been a happier person if I had kept her. I have suffered undiagnosed depression for years and the only reason that I did not commit suicide before I had my other 2 children, was that I didnt want my firstborn to think that I was nuts. Let her meet me and decide for herself...lol. But the pain that some of us bmothers go thru is so intense, we have lost a child, and we really cannot talk about it. We have no outlet, we hold it all in.
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