[bajj]

I'm not fond of the term natural just because it does make one sound a bit less natural. However, I can see a person's point, when they did naturally have the child. It doesn't make me any less natural than they are. Just because one says natural doesn't mean I am fake or less real or anything.

BUT, my son did think that when someone asked me (in front of him) if I were going to have any natural kids. I said, "I have 2." They said, "no, you know what I mean, real kids." DS looked at me and said, "am I fake or not natural or something?"

Sooo, I got to have a talk with him about educating people who aren't aware of adoption and terminology.

I agree with mommy24, she is probably just educating herself and realizing how birthmom can really feel like being called an incubator.

I never actually thought of the term that way, but then, I'm not a First Mother. When I hear birthmother, I think of someone who loved her child enough to nurture him, to find parents, to place him, to always pray for him, to always hold him in her heart. However, I would NEVER want to offend my children's first mothers, so if they told me they were uncomfy with Bmom, I'd stop using it.

I hope this isn't too much rambling and makes some sense!