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Roosmama~ *sigh* I can tell you from my own POV as a First mom that I do not like Birth Mom either. It has nothing to do with regret about placing and ALOT to do with how Birth Mom makes me feel as a person.
I did far more than give BIRTH. I was his FIRST mom, no one can take that away from me. The term natural doesn't work for me personally as I can see how that would make the a-mom feel un-natural.
I settled for birth mom for years because that is what I was told that I was. It wasn't until I became a member of A.com that I realized "I did more than give birth to my child, I made a parental decision out of pure love for him as well. I nurtured him for 9 months in my womb, I kept my self healthy so he could have the best start in life"
Birth mom sounds like I was nothing more than an incubator and I wasn't. So don't take it as a "slam" to who you are, you are mom. She is probably just educating herself and finding her way in this long journey we call adoption.
Best of luck to you!
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"I have learned that people won't remember what you said to them, they won't remember what you did to them, but they will always remember how you made them feel"
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