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Hi Lucy,
I didn't mean to sound like I was telling her what to do. Everyone has thier own opinion............my experience and from my friends that have fostered first or those that just adopted, have all told me it was easier by fostering first. They got a real feel of what it would be like this way. Adoption is a very large decision in ones life and often these children, mainly the older ones do have some problems. the young lady we adopted, had lived with us for 3 years in foster care before she was cleared, and was 16 when we adopted her.
I have worked with many children that have been adopted, then placed back in the system and that rejection plus the hurt from the biological family can really do a number on their heads. All I would really stress to anyone is please be sure that the adoption of a child means a forever thing to you.
I am glad adoption worked out for you so smoothly and your family is happy. Thats all that really counts!
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