[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by jewishadoptionblog

I think potential adoptive parents need to be honest when speaking with an agency or potential birth mother. Especially in an open adoption - or even in a closed situation - truth does eventually come out. If you are a Jewish family planning on raising your child Jewish, then that is the truth. If you are a mixed marriage and celebrate both Easter and Passover, then that is your reality. But it's dangerous territory to say one thing when something else is true. Eventually, our children gain access to their records and may choose to meet their biological records - it's important (at least in my opinion) for everyone's story to be the same....

I agree. I know someone who is Jewish (heritage) and her husband was raised protestant-however, neither believe in God and are open about being atheists. For both adoptions, though, they put in their homestudy & adoption applications that they would be raising the kids Christian with an understanding of Judaism. A complete lie. I thought it was horrible that they were deceiving birthparents in this way. Both children are teenage atheists. Imagine how the birthparents will feel believing that the kids were raised as Christians.

For many birth families, religion is important. I know I would want a Catholic family for my child. If I couldn't have a Catholic family, I would want a christian family. And I would fully expect the child to be raised as a christian-not an atheist.

For the record, I didn't know what they did until their youngest was already home.