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But I really wanted to ask. My husband and I are writing our profile now, and I'm refusing to allow agency input on it. I basically told them that if they wouldn't take it how *I* wrote it, then I would use someone else. They want me to write it with what they "know expectant mom's like to read" I want to write it so that it is an acurrate portrait of our lives. One major bone of contention is my inital description of "us" I state that we are just regualr people who enjoy regular things. That we are not people who are world travelers, nor do we live in a million dollar mansion.

They want me to take that out since they think it indicates we are not "well off" and that is something many expectant mothers look for. We have plenty, we do well, and the rest of our profile indicates that. I don't want an expectant mother to pick us because we sound the best, and have the most money. I want her to pick us because of who we are. I wouldn't want her to have these high expectations of us, and then feel disapointed in her choice as contact continued (I want at least a semi-open relationship)

I would like some input on this. Did any of you read profiles on the Aparents you chose, that didn't really match up later. It like a big contest of who can sound the richest, and who can promise the most vacations and toys. My social worker said that since the majority of mothers are placing due to financial constraints, they want to place with a family that has "plenty of money"

What's the deal here? Should I beef up my profile? We are regular people, we'll travel some...trips to Disney and stuff, and we hope offer our children a lot of stuff we never had, like music lessons, or sports/dance lessons etc. I put all that in, but the social worker thinks exectant mothers won't get by that first paragraph.

What do you all think? I want to believe the right expectant mother is out there for us, with out us having to sound rich and snobby!