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I remember reading something that said you can't spoil them in the first six months. Then I read something else that said you can't spoil them in the first 18 months. We decided 18 months was a good number. So, when he cried we picked him up. When he was hungry he was fed. When he wanted attention he got it. I never left him to "cry it out". Even if it meant I did housework with him strapped to me in a carrier, he never was left crying.
Did it work? I think so. By two he was very confident and secure. We had some battles, but on the most part he was an easy two year old. Now he is almost 12. He is still confident. He is secure in our love.
On the other hand we have an adopted son that was neglected. None of his needs were met. He was left to cry on his own frequently as an infant. He suffers from severe anxiety and depression.
Spoil your babies. It is good for them.
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J, bio son: born Feb '96
T, adopted daughter: born July '96, adoption finalized Dec '06
E adopted son: born Sept '99, adopted November '05
C, foster daughter, with us for 10 months in our home, with us forever in our hearts born Sept '03, placed with us August '07, moved late June '08
[I"]Jeremiah 29:11for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.[/color][/i]
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