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I just wanted to give my 2 cents on the matter as a person of color because I’ve been in the position where this issue has come up before.
For a start read everything you can on the bylaws of this organization. Are all chapters required to follow the same membership requirements? Do they have one of those clauses that say each chapter is independently operated and can have their own membership criteria in addition to the national requirements?
If you are going to fight this, How far are you willing to go?
If you get the leader removed are you willing to step in and take her place? If the troop is pretty much a clique and the leader takes all the current members with her, is that okay? Can you help recruit all new members of the troop if they walk in support of the current leader? What if they are willing to shut down that chapter to keep the status quo? All this kind of stuff can happen.
Do you plan on living there permanently? Will the kids be in that school or switching to a private one?
How would fighting this impact your children? Do they go to school with those kids? Would they be ostracized? They could end up taking the fallout from the situation because kids don’t necessarily have the self censoring abilities that adults have. The kids in the troop have most likely heard their parents making comments.
Do you really want your kids in a group where they are not wanted? If the leader acquiesced and the kids were let in… you would have to constantly monitor the situation. Do you have that kind of time and energy? It is really draining but some people have the fortitude to hang in there.
You have to choose your battles carefully in situations like this. Just based on the information you posted I would complain but I would not put my kids in that chapter. It’s better for your kids to not be in a hornet’s nest.
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