[Vogi2002]

I didn't get a lot of information about my son's birthfamily...medical history yes. Medical history is a bit different considering you need this for your child's health, not just to know. I'm not sure why a birthmother would need to know our medical history unless there was something life threatening. Don't you think it would be a litte petty to ask my family's health history just because you had to share yours? Unless that would truley make a difference in your decision of course...oh and mental illness...i can understand wanting to know about this also if it is in the family.

Other information though, I would be happy to fill out the same form the birthmother filled out. I suspect though(at least in my case) it is nothing as personal as our homestudy. If it is, then I wouldn't want or expect it from the birthmother either. I think it's outrageous to ask an emom to fill out anything beyond medical history and openness and a few questions about placement / adoption (just like we filled out for her).

I am just astounded here...maybe you have never seen just how personal and long a homestudy is (I mean in America...and I know they vary). It's not about hiding something, it's about not sharing very very personal information. For example would you need to know:

Again - what if an emom changes her mind!? You would have all that information out there for people to know!! It goes beyond privacy, but also safety with identity theft.