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You are not a bad mom...attachment is a two way street and a process...sometimes a long process.
My best advice is what got me through the first 6 months with my DS...FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT!
Do lots of attachment activities...they will help both of you. Also, someone suggested this to me while we were suffering with DS's attachment issues...find one thing you like about your child each day. It may be something simple...or something like looking at her while she is sleeping. And trust me I used my son FINALLY sleeping on many, many days initially. I used a sling constantly but he was much younger...only 8 months old when we brought him home...but I used it until he was 3! (He is a skinny guy-thankfully.)
Good luck and hang in!
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~
*Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~now 7, in 2nd grade and such a lovely little lady! 
*Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 5, in Kindy and such a 5 year old boy! 
'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.'
~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
Last edited by angelkisses0102 : 10-16-2007 at 07:00 AM.
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