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Originally Posted by tinascratch
I've never been on this site before, so hello all.
I was adopted as baby (I'm now 35) and over the years have had some vague curiosity about my birth parents but never enough to actively pursue finding out about them.
Then today I received this handwritten letter:
Dear Christina,
I am a stranger to you, but received your name from the organization TXCares. I registered with their organization in an effort to locate my birth daughter.
At this point you are welcomed [sic] to toss this letter. Though I would love to meet this child, I have no desire to interfer [sic] in any way with her life.
I have some medical information to share, and since the death of Karen Spicer at Catholic Charities I am very disappointed in filing new information.
If this could be you & you do not respond, I understand.
This child was born on 12/30/1971 at Duncan Memorial, located at the Gladney Center in Fort Worth. She was adopted a few days later.
If this can be you and you wish to pursue it, I can be reached at 817.###.####.
Sincerely,
S___ N___
While I'm somewhat excited by the idea of meeting my birth mom, I'm pretty stunned and a little wary as well. And while I actually did find information about this woman online (she teaches at a college close to here and lives in the town just west of my own), I can't find anything about TxCares other than that it did exist at some point and was helpful to adoptees with searches.
I really didn't think it was easy for birth parents to find Catholic Charities adoptees. Does anyone here know anything about TxCares? And I couldn't help but notice that she says "if this could be you" - is this a carefully non-pressuring word choice or do you thing there is a good possibility that it really isn't me?
Any advice on how to handle this? Right now I'm leaning towards contacting her next week.
Um, I am freaking out a little here.
Thank you for reading,
Tina
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This is the internet age, anything is possible.
She sent a letter, she didn't show up on your doorstep, she didn't call. She sent a letter, that gives you time to think and process this information.
She is a college teacher, not a bag lady, that is good to know.
How she got the info isn't as important as that she might be your bmom. In WA state the registration numbers on the orginal birth cert are the same as the ones on the amended. As bmom she may be able to get the orginal, you have an amended. Or maybe you can get your file opened to see if she is the right person, a CI can do that.
Freaking out is ok.
I found my bson becasue I got his aparents last name out of my medical file. The doc had written it there at a time, 1964, when we normally didn't have access to those files. The laws changed. I had my non-ID info with first names from the county I live in.
First names, last name, It still took 9 months to find him. A copy of his amended birth cert, then the search was on.. He was looking for me too. He had also called the doc trying to find me. His amom was filling out paperwork to find me. I just found him first.
Our reunion is wonderful. He has been here for the last two thanksgivings.
Good luck