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On the homestudy thing...
The father's sister (who placed in open adoption the year before my daughter was born) told me that when she asked to see the homestudies of her top 3 couples, 2 of the 3 refused. As she wouldn't place without reading the homestudy and viewing the background check, she was back to the drawing board when the last couple of the three had revealed in the homestudy that they planed to move within 3 years after denying plans to move to her in conversation. She ended up with couple #6 on her list after reading all of the intervening homestudies. It's worked out well and continues to be open but...
So on one hand, I'd love to read the homestudy. I think it would avoid a lot of the awkward and possibly hurtful questions (like about fertility). On the other, if I'm set on reading it and they refuse and I otherwise like them, could I be passing on a great couple if I won't match without reading it?
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b-mom in open adoption (3/18/08)
As of 10/30/08, I am officially retiring the breastpump. My life is mine again!
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