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We have a 4 sib group who can't be trusted out of our sight due to sex abuse/adhd issues--and now finding out 1 of them is bipolar! Ages 6,7,9,11 all boys.

We have to have them in separate bedrooms, not allow them
in bedrooms or out of line of sight for a minute. Cannot bathe together, eat together without supervision. Have to be able to hear them at play to know how they are doing. Cannot leave them to their own devices unless I want fires set or animals mutilated, or beating each other with sticks.

Our salvation through this all was/is teen age bio daughters who carry on for us as respite and nannies. Also daycare paid for by the state. Of course I am better than any daycare-but there is only one of me. So we pick times to do homework/tutor. They also like the daycare which is a plus because they have such a hard time making/keeping friends. Supervised play.

It is rewarding and chock full of challenges.These same kids were ousted from a "normal" adoptive home who could not deal with the issues.

I totally recommend any adoptive parents to be foster parents first (unless it is a newborn) before they take on sib groups!!