[taramayrn]

I think that most potential adoptive parents are expecting the "grilling" so to speak and are hopefully prepared to answer your questions. Lots of the questions that you will ask, the parents have already been asked by their social worker in preparation for the adoption.

If seeing how the couple reacts and interacts with children then you need to tell them on the first meeting and arrange another one (if you get a good feeling about them) to see them with their children. It's just so hard when you are involving children and their little hearts get broken so easily.

We matched with our son's adoptive parents a month before his birth and met every weekend before he was born. I got a really good feeling from them the first time I met them and knew I would match with them right away. Those feelings were only solidified when we added their four year old daughter to the mix.