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Sorry I've not been active. Thanks for the thoughts.
Considering some type of counseling again. Just a wait and see situation at the moment.
Sent an email to daughter and havent heard back. It usually takes her a while to respond.(Just a Hello Note for now)
I've been working on the letter.
I've laid out some ground rules and hope they go over well with her. If she wants to vent, she can do so without screaming at me, or I call a timeout. I've suggested some counseling for the both of us. Of course we can't do it at the same time but I will be willing if it will help us. There's a good list but that's the jest so far. I've included the situation concerning her conception. I warned that it wouldnt be easy to understand and I would tell her everything I possibly could if she wants to know more. I'm trying to find a way to reassure her that my feelings for her dont change because of it... I'm really trying to be the person I hope she wanted. A trust worthly loving adult. I may have blown it but I'm willing to try again... being that said, I'm asking her for a second chance and to start over fresh. Maybe she knows she's gone to far and dont know how to back out from all her lashing out. Here I'm giving her a way out, to start over. I'm very willing to move on to a better relationship if she is. I'm suggesting putting it all out there. I want her to tell me how she feels, sees our relationship and what she wants out of it, or how she wants it to turn out. If she is trying to run me off and thought acting out would be easier, then tell me. I can do what it takes to make it better. But no abuse from either side, period.
I've not covered every point but its an overview of the draft so far. Any suggestions as to points to add? Or not to add.
Rose
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