I wrote this for my blog, but figured I could try it out here too.
I stare at this blank screen thinking about Safe Haven and what I want to write about. I realized recently that a lot of people know about Safe Haven in theory, but not necessarily in practice.
I lived Safe Haven, and while I have been looking to connect with other women that have used Safe Haven, or similar laws, I haven’t come up with much. Maybe it’s because women that use Safe Haven aren’t sitting in front of computers all day. Maybe it’s because women that use Safe Haven are trying to live the old school “Don’t think about it and you’ll get over it” – which we know isn’t true. And maybe it’s because women that use Safe Haven feel a unique kind of shame that keeps them quiet. Most of us hid our entire pregnancy, so why wouldn’t we continue to hide now?
While I don’t want birthmother horror stories to become a competition, because many of us have our fair share, and it doesn’t get us anywhere, I believe that Safe Haven birthmothers are a particularly silenced group.
Clearly, I am not terribly silenced. At least not in Cyber space.
And I do NOT profess to have the ability to speak for all Safe Haven birthmothers, just this one! But as I was looking into information about Safe Haven, both before AND after placement, I found very little information other than what the basic law was for any given state.
So, I offer you, ask a Safe Haven birthmom!
Seriously, ask anything. I’m a pretty open book, especially when I don’t know who it is I’m talking to.
thanksgivingmom@hotmail.com
Maybe your questions will give me some ideas about how to focus my Safe Haven thoughts…because right now, they’re all a little jumbled. And if it’s okay with you, I’ll be using some of the questions and the thoughts they provoke as part of my blog.
So please, if you have any questions, I will answer you to the best of my ability, and if I don’t have the answer, I will try to find it for you.
And please, note that there is a warning attached to this forum, that this is not the place to debate Safe Haven laws. If you want to do that PM me, and I’ll chat with you, but this is for support.
Thanks!