[nikkianni]

First, congratulations on your boys!
I've never posted on "this side" before because as an aparent I just kind of feel funny. But I'd like to give you a little insight into some of the issues you mentioned.
First: I have twin brothers and while they love our Dad, they are far closer to our Mom. I agree that a male role model is important for any child, but the mom/son connection can be just as important.
Second, Money and adoptive parents: There are no ironclad absolutes in adoptive parent income. Some of us save for years to afford adoption, others don't. I can only give you a personal example. Our agency required proof of income and outgo as part of the home study process. We, like most of the adoptive parents I know, both have jobs that allow us to own a home, each have a car, take vacations, etc. Nothing extravagant, but a good life. I think a previous poster mentioned this, but none of it is gauranteed. People get laid off, companies close, etc. So while a potential adoptive couple may seem stable today, tomorrow could be a different story.
Money and you: I've never been in your shoes and I wouldn't try to put myself in them. You're the best judge of your own situation. But as others have said, public assistance of any kind is not a shameful thing. If it helps you accomplish what you need to, that's what it's meant to do.
Aparent Pofiles: Everyone does sound great on paper and to be honest, we all spend a LOT of time trying to write something that puts our best foot forward. There are whole books dedicated to how to write a profile. If you do come to the point where you're looking at profiles, stop and call couples or even meet with them when possible. Everything is at your pace and your discretion.